I’m Still Here – Please Don’t Leave Me!

I’m Still Here – Please Don’t Leave Me!

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Hey there – happy warrior Wednesday guys!!!

I am feeling so so so bad! I havent blogged for so long and it makes me feel really guilty.  All of you who have bothered to follow me are so important to me and my sober journey, and hopefully I am important to you on yours?

Life at the moment is pretty much going at a million trillion miles an hour and I am struggling to keep it all together – unfortunately my blogging has taken a back seat and I am sorry.

So a quick update with things – I have finally stopped my ironing business, woo hoo!  My job as a Tropics Skincare Ambassador is just going from strength to strength and I am doing so well I have been given the opportunity to meet Susie Ma and Lord Sugar at the Tropics headquarters – I cant tell you how excited I am about that!  And finally I have passed my theory Exercise To Music course and will be doing the BodyPump course in two weeks – all this plus kids, a crazy labrador puppy and trying to get in my best shape ever – lets just say I have been struggling to fit anything else in!

And you know what, I am not for one second complaining because I would rather have ALL this going on than being stood at my ironing board, Monday to Friday, counting down to wine o’clock day in day out!  Bring on the crazy new me and my sober journey because it really is the gift that keeps on giving!

Is anyone else feeling the same? Does anyone else feel that their life is changing at a crazy rate – in a good way! All because you have stopped drinking and started to chase the things you love to do in life and become the person you want to be.

When it comes to my blog,my baby!  Which is a huge source of sober support for me – please just stick with me.

Everything I am doing now is leading me to give you better posts, I can hopefully look at having my own exercise and sober support programme by the end of the year.   I want to set up a sober on line shop that will include gym t-shirts, sober rewards and all of the lovely Tropics pamper products for you to be able to purchase once you hit your milestones – big and small!

I also want to rewind back to the start of my sober journey for you guys out there in the early days, to help with social outings, friends, weight loss and sober self-care etc

So please stick with me guys!!

In the meantime I am still posting nearly everyday on Insta for sober inspo and motivation so please find me @ lifting weights not wine

Don’t forget you can email or DM me anytime, I love hearing from you and will reply every time!!

Lets carry on  this crazy sober journey of following our hearts and becoming the best version of  us!

Lots Of Love

Angie xx

Want A New life? Get Sober!

Want A New life? Get Sober!

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Earlier this week I saw this quote on internet and it just hit me – boom!

I have had this huge guilt recently that I haven’t been blogging as much as I planned but at the moment my (new) life is just getting in the way.  And I have to keep telling myself that it’s a good thing, not a bad thing.  Life is moving at a zillion miles an hour and I just need to embrace it!

I mean – what was my other option.  My life certainly couldn’t carry on the way it was, I couldn’t carry on the way I was.  Kidding myself that I was ok, that my drinking was ok.

It is so easy to get stuck in a drinking rut, so easy to tell yourself that everything is ok, that it’s normal to feel drained, its normal to want to drink to escape who you are and what you are feeling, its ok to spending most of your weekend either drinking or thinking about drinking.

It’s not NORMAL. Its not OK.  And there is only YOU who can do something about it.

Earlier this week I posted this on my Instagram page and a couple of Facebook groups that I follow.

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I was absolutely amazed at the response!  My message was a bit more ‘tough love’ than It would normally be, but you know what a lot of people seemed to react to that in a positive way.  On the Facebook groups especially I received so many positive comments.

You really DO need to stop listening to your own bullshit and kidding yourself that your life as it now is OK.

One of the things that sobriety has shown me is that by taking alcohol away you are allowing yourself to be who you really are.  You start to discover the real you, what you REALLY enjoy doing, the people who you really want to spend your time with.  Its like unravelling the layers to discover the new you – this new life that you are slowly creating around you.  When you are drinking, your focus is on drinking – take that away and your life becomes about so much more.

Last night I realised how far I have come in my journey.  And although I have been so stressed this last couple of weeks with course work and signing up to be a tropics ambassador,  I felt like last night was my reward.  I stood in front of a group of friends and family and hosted my launch party.  I felt confident, I was in my element, I was talking about something I love and it was a huge success!  I loved it and I can’t wait to do another one.

Now rewind to the old me – at this type of party (which I had a few, it fit in with young kids, it got people together and most importantly, I could drink what I wanted in my own house) I would be taking every opportunity ti knock back the wine, constantly getting up for a top up and having another glass in the kitchen as my ‘kitchen’ drink just in case I left my glass in the other room (please tell me someone else out there has done that!!??) And I have sometimes even woken up with no idea what I have ordered??    I would NEVER have even contemplated being someone who ran these parties!  What?  a Friday night, having to drive somewhere, having to watch other people drink, and having the confidence to stand up there, with no wine and sell something nooooooo that would NEVER happen!  My wine was far to important to me, it was my ‘reward’ for a ‘tough’ week with the kids.  It was the escape that I needed,  and NOTHING would get me off the settee and away from my wine.  How ironic that it was the wine and the settee that I needed to escape from!!

Fast forward to last night and I stood up there after a large glass of Zero Point Zero fizz from Aldi and held my own party! And after lots of positive texts from my guests I’m pretty sure I smashed it!  The person I feel like now to the person I felt like then is just two totally different people.  I really do feel like my sober life is a new life and a new me.  I am slowly becoming the person who I am meant to be and doing the things I love.  I am waking up everyday feeling excited (stressed, hectic and anxious at times – yes!) but feeling as though my new life is slowly coming together and the hard work of the early days of sobriety, and the numerous day ones are paying off.

Change doesn’t happen over night.  I have seen a lot of people towards the end of Dry January saying things aren’t changing such as weight loss, energy levels etc.  But they won’t, the changes are slow, gradual but they will happen .  Not picking up the glass id the first change you need to make – the rest will follow.  You are becoming the real you, taking away the smoke screen of alcohol that tells you everything is OK.  ITS NOT OK.  And if you are reading my blog you probably already know that it’s not ok.

It doesn’t matter if your on day one or day 1000 of your sober journey.  What matters is that you stop kidding yourself and start pushing forward on your journey to discover the real you and live the life that makes you want to jump out of bed every morning (well let’s be realistic – most mornings!)

If your just starting out on your sober journey, oleo look back at some of my first posts that help with the early days Just start……….

Hope its a happy hangover free weekend for you guys and that your spending it doing something that you love.

Please find me on Instagram for daily sober inspo @liftingweightsnotwine

ANGIE xx

A sober shout out to Linda,Trish, Michelle and ….. My mum who are all on their little sober journeys and becoming sober,strong women (its only taken me 43 years to be a good influence!xxx)

 

2019 – Are You Still On The Right Track?

2019 – Are You Still On The Right Track?

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Can you believe we are already half way through January!  How is it going? Are you still on track with your New Years resolutions?  Are you feeling strong and heading full speed on the right track or have you given up and fallen by the roadside?

According to a Forbes survey just 8% of people achieve their New Year Resolutions and stick with them until the end of the year!

So if you feel that you are losing your mojo and determination that you had in abundance on January the 1st! Then don’t worry you are certainly not on your own!

This post is hopefully going to help you relight your fire and get you back on track.

So firstly lets look at those of us who are taking part in Dry January, how is it going?  Are you starting to feel the benefit? Are your energy levels slowly starting to increase? Are you feeling good and enjoying the new you and possibly thinking you can carry on past January and beyond?  Or are you struggling? Are you counting down the days until the 1st of Feb so you can return back to the old you, the drinking you?

Well I may be nearly 26 months sober, but you know what? I never completed a Dry January, I just couldn’t do it!  I was one of the latter of the above, who felt miserable and deprived.  Every January I would set myself up to fail. I wouldn’t plan anything in my diary, avoided catching up with people, eat bucket loads of chocolate and spend most of the time feeling like I was “missing out on life” !!- It’s no wonder I didn’t succeed!  I can see what I was doing wrong now, but I couldn’t see it then.

I can see now that it all comes down to your MINDSET,  believing that YOU CAN do it, and being EXCITED about the process.  These early days should feel exciting, new experiences are waiting for you around the corner,  2019 holds a full year of first time sober experiences and believe me it is a whole new world!  I believe that it 100 percent comes down to your mindset, you need to flick the switch from feeling deprived that you are GIVING UP DRINK to being EXCITED about getting so much more out of life as the SOBER YOU!

The main thing that helped me in the early days, and helped me turn stopping drinking into a positive experience, was exercise. (That shouldn’t come as a surprise to any of my regular followers!)  I found exercise something new to focus on.  So instead of obsessing over the drinks I was missing out on I changed my MINDSET and started to focus on the exercise that I could do.  And I’m not talking about doing mega weights sessions from day one, I mean enjoying a gentle jog or walk in the morning and just relishing in the fact that I didn’t have a hangover or felt rough.  In the first few weeks I walked nearly everyday, just enjoying the fresh air and feeling better in myself.   My exercise had always been in fits and starts in the past because my boozy weekends got in the way,  so this time I wanted to be consistent and try to do something every day.  So as my energy increased I started  mixing it up with running, Jillian Michaels workout dvds and then onto weights – but it can be anything, whatever exercise you enjoy doing!

So if you’re struggling this January and you haven’t done already,  why not look at starting some sort of exercise?   The following are points from Mike Trott at Les mills and may help if you’re struggling with where to start:

  • First you need to find something you enjoy – this is key. Try everything and  anything, that will keep you busy and keep your mind off the wine!
  • Be nice to yourself – some days you just won’t have the energy,  so if your body is saying it needs a duvet day then that’s OK just get back on it tomorrow – remember that not having a drink is your priority.
  • Take it steady, don’t overdo it or injure yourself.
  • Make sure you reward yourself – if you worked out everyday this week, celebrate it with a new book, a pamper in the bath, a DVD night.  Just something to give you a bit of me time and acknowledge how amazing you are – not drinking AND exercising, double whammy celebration!
  • The main thing that you need to remember is that it takes time to build a habit, anything from 18-24 days depending not the individual.  This is a huge variation so give yourself time, others may take longer or grasp it quicker than you – it doesn’t matter, this is YOUR JOURNEY.

 

Now I have used exercise as my focus through sobriety,  but there a million other activities and hobbies out there!  Discover what makes you feel alive, the world is your oyster!

Personally, for me exercise has shown me more than anything how much stronger I am both physically and mentally.  Added to that the boost it gives you in happy hormones and you can understand why so many people use fitness and exercise as an essential tool in their sober journey.

This was my Instagram post today which basically sums up all that I have said in one simple quote………..

CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS AND YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR BODY (and your life!)

Change your mindset, tell yourself YOU CAN  and the rest will follow!

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I will finish with this short clip from Idris Elba who I absolutely love, who doesn’t!!  It’s  not just about stopping drinking but a more widespread message about not giving up on yourself.  It’s so simple but effective, I love it……………..

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Remember – You signed up for Dry January for a reason, you set goals and resolutions for a reason – you want to change!  You don’t want t be that person from 2018 who was unhappy with themselves,  so don’t give up on the new you and in the words of Idris –

YOU ARE SO 2019 RIGHT NOW- GO FOR IT!!

Any advice or tips you want to share please leave a comment and if you’re looking for daily motivation and inspiration please find me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/liftingweightsnotwine/

 

Angie xx

 

 

 

 

 

Wishing You A Sparkly Sober Christmas xxxxxxxxxxx

Wishing You A Sparkly Sober Christmas xxxxxxxxxxx

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Hey guys I hope your having a fab Christmas Eve and a sparkly sober Christmas so far!

I won’t make this a long post as I know it’s a busy time.

I just want to say a huge THANKYOU from the bottom of my heart.  When I started my blog and Instagram page in March this year, I had no idea that it would do so well and the sober support I have received has been AMAZING!

Every message, comment and email has been so positive and the fact that people are reaching out to me for help is just something that the drinking me would NEVER have thought possible!

I truly hope that you are having a sparkly, sober christmas and enjoying this magical time without the blur of alcohol.  This will be my third sober christmas and I honestly feel like you get so much more out of this special time and you are giving your family especially your children the best version of you! My children have been one of my main reasons for me to stop drinking and you can read more of this in one of my previous post s My Girls – My Wake Up Call!

“BEING A PRESENT PARENT IS THE BEST PRESENT YOU CAN GIVE YOUR CHILD”

If you are struggling this Christmas and all of your good intentions have gone out of the window, don’t give up.  If you’re looking for help and advice please message me or read  my previous post How To Have A Sober Christmas To Remember!   Christmas 2015 was my last christmas that I was drinking and I spent most of it hating how I felt, how I looked and drank my way through horrendous hangovers – I knew I had to change, I wanted to change but it took me until November 2016 to finally quit.

Even if you are trying to stop drinking and keep failing you are on the right path and are steps ahead of anyone who is in total denial about their drinking.  Please don’t beat yourself up, it will just make you want to drink more, believe me I have been there.  All of your attempts are practice runs and one day it will click and 2019 will be your time for sober firsts – sober holidays, sober birthdays, just sober living in general – it’s a whole new world!

Sending all my love to you and yours and I hope that your Christmas 2018 is a Christmas to remember for all the right reasons!

Lots of Love 

Angie xx