You Didnt Come This Far To Only Come This Far!

You Didnt Come This Far To Only Come This Far!

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First of all sorry for the delay in this weeks post – gosh what a week it’s been!  To cut a long story short, my week has been taken up with two very poorly children and now a sick dog thrown into the mix too.  Seriously, dogs can catch human sick bugs, who knew!  I feel like I have been in some sort of sick zombie time warp, living in a world of Calpol, snot and sick!  Anyway the eldest has gone back into school today so I am actually up, dressed and normality seems to be resuming! (fingers crossed!)

So I actually need this post more than anyone, you guys are helping ME get some positivity flowing again today so THANKYOU!

The title of this post is a quote that I have seen a lot dotted around the soberista social sites and I LOVE IT! And you know what it’s only recently that I have truly ‘got it”, and that I really feel it.

When I first quit drinking, my focus coupled with exercise, was basically just getting through the days, weeks and months without picking up a glass of wine.  It was a year of first times to tick of my sober list – first sober Friday night, first sober weekend, first sober night out, first sober Christmas, first sober holiday, fist sober Birthday – you get the picture!  That was enough to keep me motivated and inspired me to keep going.

Fast forward to the end of the first twelve months and feeling really pleased with myself, I  remember posting my one year success on my personal Facebook page and also the lovely Clare Pooley (sober mummy) mentioning it in one of her blog posts.  Now you can imagine the response from Clares post was a lot more positive than my personal page, although a handful of close friends and family have been behind me all the way which I am SO grateful for (but that’s a whole different blog post for me to discuss at a later date!)  But basically it was Clare and the comments from other members on her blog that inspired me to set up Lifting Weights Not Wine.  So my second sober year has really been spent setting up my blog and Instagram page, but I’ve also had this feeling that I want more.  I want to change what I do on a daily basis.  I have felt restless, unsettled and frustrated – what next?

From being a Mortgage Advisor before children, to setting up my own ironing business to fit around the children when they were babies, my work has never really been something that I loved doing or felt passionate about.  It has just got me from Monday to Friday with the promise of the weekend (normally unless pregnant a boozy weekend!) getting me through the week.  But all of a sudden the sober me wasn’t happy with that, I didn’t want to just get by, waking up every morning and only really looking forward to the workout or run I could squeeze in but feeling bored and tired of my actual job.

It’s then that it CLICKED – I didn’t come this far to only come this far!

So I have slowly been putting changes in place and it feels like this year, so far that its actually happening!  I know I have mentioned my goal to be a Bodypump instructor before, that’s now all booked in to start at the end of March, but I have also now become a Tropics Skincare Ambassador.  Now both of these changes excite me, I have a passion (as you all know ) for exercise especially weights and to be able to actually teach that to people is just AMAZING for me.   The move to Tropics has come from a love of their products, which I have been using for about 8 months now.  Clean, natural skincare and cosmetics that totally fit in with the new me and my sober lifestyle, trying to be as healthy and toxic free as I can possibly be.  Both of these career changes together will eventually replace my current ironing business, which worked for me and served a purpose when the girls were babies.  But now I want to do something that I love and feel passionate about, something to wake up excited about!

Now I know these career changes are small and some people are going to work and making multi million pound business deals or managing hundreds of staff, to them this will probably look like nothing.  But these changes are HUGE to me!  They are EVERYTHING! These changes would have scared the drinking me to death and I would not have had the courage to make the change.  And lets me just point out the majority of my business will be done at pamper party’s on Friday evenings, imagine the thought of the old me leaving my wine and the settee on a Friday night! I thought  I was happy plodding through the week, living for the weekend and then spending most of it drinking and feeling hung over – dreading Monday morning.  Now I have got this new-found confidence to change ,to look for new goals, trying to be the happiest and best version of me that I can be.

So to those of you who are smashing their way through Dry January and starting to think “yes – I am actually feeling good!”  Why stop?  Why start drinking in February? Why not carry on?  Why would you want to go back? Why not see where this sober journey is going to take you? How exciting is that!!

Look if I had given up I would still be exactly where I was, I wouldn’t be making the positive changes that I am making now.  The only initial change i made was that I stopped picking up the wine glass and look how many positive things have happened as a result.  So just ask yourself, do your REALLY want to stop now?

How about any of you guys who have more than a few weeks of not drinking behind you, are there any big changes that you have made or are in the process of making? What are your plans for the sober you?

Quickly getting back to the Tropics Skincare, I’m not sure if you have heard of it but it really is a beautiful skin care and cosmetic range that I have totally fallen in love with – they promote a positive, healthy and clean image that I am all for!  Have a look and see what you think, and if you’ve a sober milestone coming up why not treat yourself!!  Don’t worry I am aware that you guys are looking for sober inspiration and not necessarily skincare advice so if you would like to  be part of a my own Tropics Facebook group where I will share videos, tips and offers then please find me on facebook @tropicswithangie or click on Tropics Skincare to go straight to my Tropics Online Shop.

 

I hope this post has inspired you to look at the bigger picture of not drinking, because believe me there is a bigger picture and you can make that as vibrant  and colourful as you want it to be!!

Happy sober Friday and let’s have an amazing hangover free weekend sober warriors!

Angie xx

 

 

 

 

 

 

2019 – Are You Still On The Right Track?

2019 – Are You Still On The Right Track?

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Can you believe we are already half way through January!  How is it going? Are you still on track with your New Years resolutions?  Are you feeling strong and heading full speed on the right track or have you given up and fallen by the roadside?

According to a Forbes survey just 8% of people achieve their New Year Resolutions and stick with them until the end of the year!

So if you feel that you are losing your mojo and determination that you had in abundance on January the 1st! Then don’t worry you are certainly not on your own!

This post is hopefully going to help you relight your fire and get you back on track.

So firstly lets look at those of us who are taking part in Dry January, how is it going?  Are you starting to feel the benefit? Are your energy levels slowly starting to increase? Are you feeling good and enjoying the new you and possibly thinking you can carry on past January and beyond?  Or are you struggling? Are you counting down the days until the 1st of Feb so you can return back to the old you, the drinking you?

Well I may be nearly 26 months sober, but you know what? I never completed a Dry January, I just couldn’t do it!  I was one of the latter of the above, who felt miserable and deprived.  Every January I would set myself up to fail. I wouldn’t plan anything in my diary, avoided catching up with people, eat bucket loads of chocolate and spend most of the time feeling like I was “missing out on life” !!- It’s no wonder I didn’t succeed!  I can see what I was doing wrong now, but I couldn’t see it then.

I can see now that it all comes down to your MINDSET,  believing that YOU CAN do it, and being EXCITED about the process.  These early days should feel exciting, new experiences are waiting for you around the corner,  2019 holds a full year of first time sober experiences and believe me it is a whole new world!  I believe that it 100 percent comes down to your mindset, you need to flick the switch from feeling deprived that you are GIVING UP DRINK to being EXCITED about getting so much more out of life as the SOBER YOU!

The main thing that helped me in the early days, and helped me turn stopping drinking into a positive experience, was exercise. (That shouldn’t come as a surprise to any of my regular followers!)  I found exercise something new to focus on.  So instead of obsessing over the drinks I was missing out on I changed my MINDSET and started to focus on the exercise that I could do.  And I’m not talking about doing mega weights sessions from day one, I mean enjoying a gentle jog or walk in the morning and just relishing in the fact that I didn’t have a hangover or felt rough.  In the first few weeks I walked nearly everyday, just enjoying the fresh air and feeling better in myself.   My exercise had always been in fits and starts in the past because my boozy weekends got in the way,  so this time I wanted to be consistent and try to do something every day.  So as my energy increased I started  mixing it up with running, Jillian Michaels workout dvds and then onto weights – but it can be anything, whatever exercise you enjoy doing!

So if you’re struggling this January and you haven’t done already,  why not look at starting some sort of exercise?   The following are points from Mike Trott at Les mills and may help if you’re struggling with where to start:

  • First you need to find something you enjoy – this is key. Try everything and  anything, that will keep you busy and keep your mind off the wine!
  • Be nice to yourself – some days you just won’t have the energy,  so if your body is saying it needs a duvet day then that’s OK just get back on it tomorrow – remember that not having a drink is your priority.
  • Take it steady, don’t overdo it or injure yourself.
  • Make sure you reward yourself – if you worked out everyday this week, celebrate it with a new book, a pamper in the bath, a DVD night.  Just something to give you a bit of me time and acknowledge how amazing you are – not drinking AND exercising, double whammy celebration!
  • The main thing that you need to remember is that it takes time to build a habit, anything from 18-24 days depending not the individual.  This is a huge variation so give yourself time, others may take longer or grasp it quicker than you – it doesn’t matter, this is YOUR JOURNEY.

 

Now I have used exercise as my focus through sobriety,  but there a million other activities and hobbies out there!  Discover what makes you feel alive, the world is your oyster!

Personally, for me exercise has shown me more than anything how much stronger I am both physically and mentally.  Added to that the boost it gives you in happy hormones and you can understand why so many people use fitness and exercise as an essential tool in their sober journey.

This was my Instagram post today which basically sums up all that I have said in one simple quote………..

CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS AND YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR BODY (and your life!)

Change your mindset, tell yourself YOU CAN  and the rest will follow!

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I will finish with this short clip from Idris Elba who I absolutely love, who doesn’t!!  It’s  not just about stopping drinking but a more widespread message about not giving up on yourself.  It’s so simple but effective, I love it……………..

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Remember – You signed up for Dry January for a reason, you set goals and resolutions for a reason – you want to change!  You don’t want t be that person from 2018 who was unhappy with themselves,  so don’t give up on the new you and in the words of Idris –

YOU ARE SO 2019 RIGHT NOW- GO FOR IT!!

Any advice or tips you want to share please leave a comment and if you’re looking for daily motivation and inspiration please find me on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/liftingweightsnotwine/

 

Angie xx

 

 

 

 

 

Happy New You In 2019 !

Happy New You In 2019 !

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HAPPY NEW YEAR GUYS!!

I am so sorry this post is late!  If you follow me on Instagram you will know that dropping my phone down the loo ( who needs alcohol to be clumsy!) and being away on a skiing holiday hasn’t  helped much in my media updates!!

But now I am back so Happy New 2019 – better late than never!

I hope you have had an amazing Christmas and started this year feeling positive and ready for a fabulous year ahead.

Now I am back upto date in the world of social media I can see I have had a boost in followers, so thanks for that guys – I am guessing January is the most popular time of the year for people wanting to kick the booze, especially after a Christmas of heavy drinking and Dry January being popping up everywhere.

If you are looking for help and advice in the early days please read Don’t Let Triggers Kill Your Progress!Just start………. which you will hopefully find helpful.

In the early days when I stopped drinking I read A LOT of books about getting sober.  Fiction, non-fiction, podcasts, blogs – anything I could find I would read to inspire me, keep me focused and stop me from picking up the wine.  Now life seems so busy I don’t seem to find the time to read very often, so this Christmas I made sure that a good book was on my list so I could indulge and read it whilst I was away.

The book I read this holiday was GIRL WASH YOUR FACE by Rachel Hollis, it  is an AMAZING read and I strongly recommend that you buy it!  Seriously it is perfect for getting you in warrior mode and determined to achieve whatever you want to achieve in life!!

Basically it is about lies that Rachel has believed all her life, things that have held her back from being who she really wants to be.  Each chapter addresses those lies and fights back with positivity and tips to erase any negativity or obsatcles that are getting in the way of reaching our goals.  It doesn’t focus just on sobriety (one chapter is about alcohol) but it’s for anyone wanting to change any aspect of their life.

One of my favourite chapters is NO IS THE FINAL ANSWER, and it fits in perfectly at this time of year – New Year – New You – New Goals – New Dreams!

Basically Rachel explains that if something means so much to you, then do not accept NO as an answer.

‘NO IS ONLY AN ANSWER IF YOU ACCEPT IT!’

I love this!  Think about it, if it’s something that you truly want to achieve then why let anyone (most importantly yourself) stop you?

What are your goals? What do you want to achieve this year, in five years, ten years?  Where do you want to be? What do you want to be doing? Who do you want to be?  You need to ask yourself these questions and write down the answers. These are your DREAMS, they will never be as impotant to anyone else as they are to you!

Now what is stopping you, why have you given up on these dreams?

Rachel highlights some examples –

‘A boss has told you that you weren’t right for a dream job’

‘A parent, out of love or fear told you not to try’

‘A spouse or partner was afraid they may lose you and tried to keep you anchored’

‘Or you’ve been told your too over weight to run a marathon, too young to start a business or told to take dance lessons!’

This next sentence resonated with me the most –

‘Maybe the voice saying no is your own, maybe the negative self talk in your head has been playing on repeat your entire life!’  

Yep! That is what struck a chord for me.  It really is only since I stopped drinking that I started believing in myself and pursuing changes that I never thought possible.  Because I had done what I thought was impossible – I had stopped drinking!

To all of those who have tried we all know that stopping drinking is hard, people try and fail a million times ( I know I did) but it is so so worth it when you achieve it.  It seriously gives you such a positive outlook on life and opens up new doors for you.  You just feel like you want to live more, do more, be more!  Goals and dreams ARE difficult to achieve, and that is what makes it so amazing when we get there.

Rachel reinforces that giving up is not an option:-

‘Don’t tell me you have to give up because its difficult.  This is the difference between living a life you always dreamed of or sitting alongside the death of the person you were meant to become.  You have to do something about it, you have to reach down inside yourself and remember the reason why you started this’

This is why you need to write down these goals and dreams so that you can always look back on them if you feel like life is getting in the way and you’re being distracted.  Your goals can be large or small, from feeling confident in a bikini to running a worldwide organistaion or running a marathon!  What matters is that they are important to you! They should set your soul on fire and no matter how scary it feels to try to achieve them – giving up on  them should scare you more!

Personally I have a list of about eight things I want to achieve this year, mainly linked to Lifting Weights Not Wine and a career change to a job that will make me want to jump out of bed every morning! That is my main goal! Some days it seems like a lot of hardwork to get to where I want to be and I worry that at 43 time is not really on my side, especially when I think of all the super fit twenty year olds entering the fitness industry!  But I drown that voice out by doing something to get me closer to where I want to be, from a workout to studying for my course, just something to get me one step closer.

So if you haven’t done so already, ask yourself what are your goals and dreams and start writing them down.  Make a plan to get you to where you want to be, and forget how long it will take  – just start!

Rachels’ book is amazing and I recommend it for anyone who needs to start believing in themselves and embark on their own journey to become who they want to be! My twelve-year-old even started reading it after I had finished it and she loves it, how amazing is that,  imagine having this positivity and belief in yourself at such a young age – you go girl!

If you have signed up for Dry January – let me know how it’s going?  Message me if you need to for any help and advice.  You are doing one of the best things that you can for your mind, body  and soul by giving yourself a break from the booze.  Keep up the good work and who knows 2019 may be your first sober year, you may not want to stop at the end of  January.  Believe me sobriety is the gift that keeps on giving and life just gets better and better!

If you are looking for daily sober inspiration please find me on Instagram @liftingweightsnotwine

2019 HERE WE COME!

Angie xx