This weekend is what I call a ‘Sliding Doors’ weekend! Does anyone remember the Gwyneth Paltrow, Sliding Doors film from 1998 (yes 1998! couldn’t believe it was that long ago when I googled it, OMG twenty years ago!!!!!) Anyway the film is a story of the two lives of a girl, one if she missed a train and one if she caught the train. Just that one small second of the doors closing on the train changed her whole life and you see how her life is so different, its worth a watch if you haven’t seen it!
Ok so your thinking “how is this linked to stopping drinking?” well I use the ‘sliding doors’ phrase a lot since I stopped drinking. For me its a way of thinking how certain events, weekends, occasions, would pan out differently if I was drinking. So for example if I have been on a girls night out, had a fab time, a real laugh, good food, picked everyone up and dropped everyone off, got home safe, updated my husband on the night, washed my makeup off (I love this part of being sober instead of waking up with it glued on me and my pillow!) I then settle into bed and think how different my night would have been if I had been drinking, that’s my sliding doors moment.
So this weekend is a pretty busy one, the sun is shining and it’s definitely a sliding doors weekend for me!
To start with we are out tonight with the kids, to celebrate my eldest daughter getting through her Year 6 exams this week, she’s been very calm through it all and quietly confident that she’s done well. What more could I ask for! We are planning to go for a nice meal, I will drive so no taxis to pay for or arguing over who’s driving and I’m looking forward to some lovely food and a good catch up with my hubbie and the kids after a hectic week. Then not too late home because I want to be up early for a run tomorrow. So if I had been drinking, it would be wine before going out, wine with my meal, I would probably have a huge pig out because my head would be saying – diet starts Monday! Then once the kids are in bed I would stay up later drinking and although I wouldn’t be falling over drunk I would definitely be feeling the effects and also tired, uncomfortably full in a carb coma and annoyed with myself for having no self control!
Saturday we are having people round to watch the Royal Wedding then planning on going to watch the football at the local pub (hubbies suggestion!) So previously that would be a full day of drinking and “celebrating” into the early evening, with no other option to do anything else once you’ve been drinking most of the day! But instead I’m still looking forward to a lovely weekend doing those things but I just feel like I can enjoy doing other things too. So because my day isn’t focused on drinking I can also fit in my exercise, baking with the girls then we are planning a family DVD night later on and a takeaway.
Sunday I’m taking the dog to puppy training class early morning then a family day out somewhere for a walk, weather depending! I mean can you imagine puppy training with a raging hangover, no thanks!! Mixed in with all of this is cooking, homework, feeding and watering people and keeping up with my 100 day challenge. So it’s easy to see how I don’t have time for wine and hangovers!
If I was still drinking I would still do the main things we have planed this weekend but I know I would be feeling rubbish, tired, waiting to have a glass of wine to make me feel better. When I think of it now it seems crazy but I was stuck in that pattern for a long, long time. Stopping drinking has made me get so much more out of life, I’ve just got this energy that makes me want to get up every morning and make the most of it – especially at the weekend, enjoying precious family time that I want to treasure and remember!
So its only Friday afternoon………. if you know you will be spending the majority of this weekend feeling rubbish after too much alcohol, or you just know that you wont have the energy to do what you really want to do, just take a minute to think, have a sliding doors moment! If you don’t drink, how much better will your weekend be? How much more energy will you have? What can you do with that time and energy? How do you really want to spend your weekend? Just think, you can maximise your weekend and better still waking up feeling amazing on Monday morning!
Have a lovely weekend and I hope the sun is shining for you wherever you are 🙂
credit to powerofpositivity.com for the pic x